change

change is the essence of life. be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become.

everyone says change is inevitable.
but is it really...?

this weekend, i did a lot of thinking. and this is what i've come up with about change (since i've been thinking about it a lot lately) as well as a few other topics that have been weighing on my mind.

your past is your past. but it can haunt your present and future. don't let it. people make mistakes. but don't let those mistakes define you. don't let them be just mistakes. never regret them. just take them. learn from them. grow into a better person because of them. and change for the best. it is possible: people can change.

the definition of change: to become different; to become altered or modified

yes, people can change. but you can't change people. so don't try it. it only ends badly. if they were meant to change, they will change for themselves. not for what someone else wants. or what they think other people want. they will change because they know it's what's best.

"There is nothing wrong with change, if it is in the right direction."
~Winston Churchill

i'm proud of people who want to change for the better and know it's because what is best. but if they change because they know it's what someone else wants, then they aren't doing it for the right reasons. i just wish i knew which person was which. i wish there was some way you could determine whether someone is changing because they know it's best or if it's just because they want to change to prove to someone they did just to say they did.

since there isn't a way to tell, i guess i just have to have faith. faith in people that they will do what is best for them.

so my last thought before i leave...

you don't have to have an explanation for everything you want in life. if you want something in life, you can just want it. no explanation needed. and don't let anyone tell you it's something that you shouldn't want. or something you shouldn't do. it's your life. do what you want and what makes you happy. never settle for being content. be around people that make you happy. do things that make you happy. enjoy life. you only live once. might as well make the best of it.

here is my ending quote. it's one of my favorites that i avidly live by:
"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference."